what is a holiday?

So we're in New York for "the holidays" and for a myriad of reasons I cringe every time I hear that term.

We're having a great time. We've spent Christmas in Pound Ridge with Grandma and Grandpa, Auntie Margaret, little blips of Minnie Royce Ormsby (the cat who does not enjoy the company of others especially others of the little sort), and visits from Poppa and Mimi, Baba and Papi and Uncle J and Erinn.

Christmas Eve was our usual tradition of take-out and final gift wrapping. This year we had the added challenge of figuring out how to get the masses of gifts under the tree since Isabelle was sleeping on a bed under the tree. Once her breathing relaxed and shifted to a deep steady whishhh and whooooshh, I signaled to Dadda that now would be a good time to put the gifts under the tree. With a couple scares, when Isabelle shifted and stretched we were able to get everything out.

When Isabelle awoke and Henry and I joined her in the studio, she looked at the tree and raised a concern. "Mom, why aren't they all under the tree?". I explained that there were lots of people and that we couldn't fit all the gifts for all the people precisely under the boughs of the tree." The children enjoyed the excitement of the day with family and new toys.

Isabelle understood that we celebrate Chanukah, but that we have Christmas at grandma's house. I don't like that the kids are always opening gifts, but I know that's the prerogative of a grandparent....Christmas, Chanukah, or random Tuesday in July. What I love is that the best times the kids had were climbing upstairs to Grandma and Grandpa's studio loft for a Tea Party with George (the bear) and Arlette (the bear), walking down to the pond to see if there were any ducks, "skating" through grandpa's garden to the "outdoor tea room", running around Bobba and Papi's first floor chasing one another and Isabelle tickling Henry, choosing books from the Bronxville library, exploring the lobby of the Poppa and Mimi's hotel and running about.

I love how much the children enjoy their grandparents and the energy that bounces between the two generations. The appreciation of one little person for one bigger person...one newer human for one more experienced human and vice versa.

In the dictionary a holiday is: noun 1 an extended period of recreation, especially away from home. 2 a day of festivity or recreation when no work is done.

This whole concept of "the holidays" that people refer to as some combination of Thanksgiving, through New Year's is a nightmare. People feel that they have to see everyone they know both friends and family. You have to have a million parties to attend and/or host. Chanukah becomes the Jewish Christmas. It makes me spin just thinking about it. It wasn't until I moved to the US where Thanksgiving is a big deal and started celebrating Christmas at "grandma and grandpa's" that I even became aware of this plague known as "the holidays". The disease is caused by television, shops at the mall, and our human ability to get caught up in the swing of things so easily. The anti-dotes are family and friends (not all acquaintances), a little baking perhaps, some crafts (that don't have to come close to the Martha Stewart Standard), perhaps religion if that's your thing, and just taking a minute to breathe and think.

So next time you wish someone well this winter. Think about to whom you are speaking and what your wish for them is, but don't feel the need to perpetuate an empty greeting...especially to me.

Thanks...and enjoy the company you keep these cold and dark winter days.

Leah
(and family)

Tuesday, I take a Personal Day

Tuesday, I began my day as usual: extremely tired, in desperate need of a shower longer than 3 minutes and 15 seconds, and ready to start my day. Isabelle then proceeded to have a fit over every little thing. We tried on three or four shirts, a couple pairs of pants and then just broke down completely (her not me...yet). The sleeves were the wrong length, the fabric wasn't the right texture, etc. and beyond. After a few quick meditative breaths, I got myself dressed, scooped up Henry and we went downstairs. The whirling brewing cyclone followed and eventually we found the eye of the storm by closing the door to the playroom and waiting out the storm. Isabelle and I both realised she was too tired to cope with anything other than total control of her surroundings since she had no control of her feelings, so I head back upstairs...put my pj's back on (this was one of the issues that added fuel to the fire). We then get dressed...at the same time. Eat our toast...at the same time. Sip our water...at the same time. The kids play and soon enough Henry is ready for a nap. I put him down and he goes straight to sleep...this is rare..he must have been exhausted being witness to his sister's fury. I put on a show for Isabelle and I hop into the shower for a long relaxing downpour.

It's then that I decide I need a personal day.

Yes, a personal day used to be a day when I knew I needed to either recharge or keep going to work and eventually get sick and have to take a sick day. I would call in. Feel guilty for a couple hours and then get over it eventually. I'd stay in bed reading for a couple hours. Doze off. Take a long shower and then go for a walk. These days a Personal day looks a bit different. I don't bother feeling guilty that I might not make it back in time for Isabelle's gymnastics class. The kids are content most of the day, because let's face it...if they're not having a good day then I'm definitely not having a good day either. So I don't have to feel guilty about anything.

So my personal day went a bit like this:

I decide we are heading to the Atrium Mall. I have been wanting to take the kids to the bookstore to spend the rest of the generous gift certificates that their great Aunts and Uncles bought them for Christmas a year ago. I treat myself to a car detail and wash. I order my favourite salad from Cheesecake Factory; the French Country Small Salad. Small being a non-existent concept at the Cheesecake Factory. I also order a slice of carrot cake to bring home for dinner dessert. After the bookstore, we head over to Pottery Barn Kids and Henry and Isabelle play in the kitchen. It's very quiet at the mall (surprising but true) so I have a seat and just watch them play. Then we go back to the bookstore for a coffee (me not them) and I have promised Isabelle ice cream (she saw some adults eating ice cream in their car as we drove to the mall...there goes my story that places don't serve ice cream anymore because it is winter.) so I get her some ice cream on the way out. She is mellow for the rest of the day because I drew a very clear line in the morning and she didn't like what happened when she tried to cross it. We go home, and Isabelle doses off for a much needed nap and Henry sings along to his favourite new Music Together CD the Sticks album.

I come home feeling rejuvenated (again this is a relative term). My car is clean and crumb free. The children have had a full day and I'm not to exhausted.

We miss gymnastics...there's always next week.

Catching Bubbles - Photo Session with Sara

Photo sessions with the kids are like catching bubbles. You try to capture moments of their childhood. Most of the time you just get dazed by the colours and spinning and by the time you reach out to catch the floating sphere little drops sprinkle your nose as they pop. You almost wonder if they were really there.

For me it's not about memories or perfectly captured moments. The photos are little keys that free the real memories inside your senses.

Henry does things every now and then and they remind me about what Isabelle used to do when she was a peanut.

Photos do the same to a much smaller degree. Most of the time it's not really the people in the photos that I love. It's the toy tossed to the side that you had forgotten. The tea towel on the counter in the background that you remember. The bowl of strawberries off to the side on the table. The pillow on the couch that's from the sofa we call Jesse's couch. The beach ball Henry's holding that we got for Isabelle's first birthday party.

Sara got some great shots of the kids. She has a daughter of her own and has learned what to try and when to give the kids their space.

The kids had a blast and I can't wait to get the portraits home.

If you want to get in touch with Sara, her phone number is 617-833-0660 and email is info@sublimephotoart.com.

America's Future Iron Chefs...in PBKids Kitchen Stadium

Today, Henry and Sydney had some quality time playing in PBkids Mini Prep Kitchen and Retro Pink Kitchen.

They were busy opening and shutting the fridge, most likely looking for the top ingredients, produce, and spices. Henry ran across the store to get a blue plate from another table display when he was ready to plate his latest creation.

Henry got a bit startled and upset when he put his pot in the sink and it made a loud crash. He must be used to a limestone farmer's sink or something. Later Sydney tried and was surprised too, but she went back for more crash and bang.

Sydney supervised and at one point tried to take a bowl from Henry. A nice pink melamine mixing bowl. Henry gave her the "Dan eyebrow" and hugged the bowl. Then, still hugging the bowl, he explained to her why she couldn't have it. "Abla dada mama bbbbbbb. Areuh ga da."

Sydney seemed a bit taken aback, but she wasn't going to try to argue. She knows that Isabelle is Henry's big sister and that he has a lot more practice with the holding strong/arguing skill. Then Henry proceeded to convince Sydney that she should take the pot. He handed it to her, but she didn't seem that interested. So Henry tried to take her hand and fold it around the handle. Sydney decided to humour him and took the pan. Then they were off back to cooking.

After the last dishes were set in the fridge, stove top, oven, dishwasher and clothes dyer, Henry and Sydney headed over to the ironing board next to the mini-prep kitchen. Henry tried to hang on to the over sink hooks and dangle as the whole thing began to teeter I got up to grab a few utensils to hang from the hooks. "Henry they're not to hang yourself. They are to hang these (a spatula, slotted spoon and rolling pin)". He seemed satisfied and went on to iron...well not exactly iron. He grabbed the iron and ironed the end of the ironing board and continued along the tracks towards the faucet and around the bars that held the hooks and back to the ironing board "CHoo...choo...choo...choo" he sang. Well perhaps he's a future iron chef, but for now he's still my baby boy...emphasis on boy.

Date night...and its repurcussions

After three years, I finally got it together and our fabulous babysitter Jen comes once a week so that we get a date night. Ahhhh....date night....you can picture it now:

Mom gets out her fabulous little black dress that fits perfectly and is pressed and clean. Isabelle watches as I pull on my silky hole-free nylons and slip on my leather heels that feel as comfortable as slippers. She prances around the room clomping in my other leopard print heels. I spray on a little scent and carefully put my silver earrings in. When the babysitter comes I give Isabelle and Henry a soft kiss on the head and jauntily walk out the door. Dan meets me at some fabulous Boston restaurant where we enjoy each others company over candlelight and talk about this and that. NOPE....not exactly.

Let me preface this with the fact that I am grateful that I finally got it together to have a babysitter come and that our children are healthy and relatively easy to take care of. I'm also thankful that date night is even an option given that I don't work outside the house and that my mommyhood income although low on taxes is also low on income.

So actually we have had a couple nice dinners out. We have so many fabulous restaurants around us in Boston, Cambridge and Charlestown. Our last two nights out were at Olives in Charlestown where the food, albeit rich, and atmosphere were a real treat bringing us back to our more carefree days and Chez Henri a favourite from the old neighbourhood.

We've also had a quick dinner at a Mexican fast food chain after my workout at the gym (that I do enjoy as a little me time and I don't have to listen from the shower to hear if anyone is crying) and then grocery shopping.

Date night has also been coffee/tea at a local bookstore with another mom just to catch up and mostly vent about kids and husbands and life in general.

There's also the most recent date night, which is the Isabelle and Mommy date night. I've been pretty tired lately since I've been sick, and Henry's getting molars. The flip side of this is that Isabelle has had a pretty short-tempered, impatient, and non-indulgent mommy for the past few weeks. So I figured it was time for another Belle and Mom date night.

We got Henry settled with Jen. He had a fabulous time dancing around the kitchen with Isabelle showing us some new moves. I think he's been watching MTV when I'm not paying attention. Does MTV even exist anymore? Do they have music and dancing? Belle and I head out with Henry yelling "Bye" to us down the stairs. We stop at Kotobukiya in Porter Square to order some sushi and then Isabelle and I go to Made By Me to paint some pottery. Isabelle and I talk about how I couldn't have sushi when she was still in my tummy. She keeps asking when she gets to hold her chopsticks until finally we get our bag and she gets her chopsticks.

At Made By Me Isabelle chooses a Monkey for herself and dog for Henry since Henry likes dogs. I choose to Japanese-style teacups for the kids. The sushi is great, the painting is relaxing and Isabelle enjoys choosing the colours, squeezing the paint onto the palette -this is a favourite, and painting then going up onto the counter and starting all over again until both pieces are done. I relax as I paint each cup wondering if they'll look half decent given the distractions and interruptions, but I relish them and I don't mind if they're not up to my "pre-mom" quality because what does that mean anyway. Each day is different now, then, and before then. Isabelle is so relaxed and it is nice to just be in each others' company.

The next morning...a late night and a perfect evening transform into a huge meltdown...Isabelle won't wear anything she chooses for various reasons. I give up and go get myself dressed. She cannot get out of her monster meltdown until I shut the door and she realises she's reached my limit. Then we go back upstairs. I put my pajamas back on and we start fresh. Insane I know, but that's the mindset of a 3 year old and in particular my 3 year old.

Then we head to Starbucks for a little peace and caffeine.

Happy Tuesday.

Leah

Buzz and Bees

So, I'm a bzzzagent. Yeah, I know it sounds weird. I think it might be even dorkier now that the new bee movie with Jerry Seinfeld is coming out or is out (I'm a mom of 2 kids under 5- I really have no clue when movies come out in the theatres). Now when I mention bzzzagent, I see myself as a ridiculous cartoon bee. So to save face, I just tell people that I am part of a word of mouth program.

Basically, I try some new products that I would potentially buy/use anyway and then I share samples, coupons, and opinions about the products.

At the moment, I've tried the 100% Naturals Chapstick. I liked this because it's Chapstick so it is familiar and also it had no scent or weird tingling. I saved on stick for myself and then use one for each child (labeled with my p-touch). This is the season for chapstick so I usually have 2 or 3 kinds in every pocket, car and bag.

I also have the Barilla Tortellini, but I've been busy cooking so I haven't tried it yet.

My favourite new toy is the Philips Sonicare FlexCare toothbrush with UV to sanitize the brush. I've had a bad cold for the past month so somehow I feel healthier with the UV. It's also kind of like going to the dentist, so I felt a bit strange the first time using it...I'm not a huge fan of vibrations so it took a couple minutes for me to relax. Finally, I'm a notorious 10 second tooth-brusher and with this brush I actually clean my teeth properly. My dentist and my husband will be so proud! Now if I could only find time to shower! (just kidding... most of the time)

The last two bzzproducts I have to try are the Back to Nature nut and trail mixes....I love their granola bars, but have to try these to see if they are up to par.

Finally, I have to try the CVS Photo book. I five a lot of photo books as gifts since we have two young children and many adoring grandparents. I just need a minute to sit down and upload the pictures.

Well that's all the Buzz I have for now. Next topic....memories of the season (I'm just not ready yet.)